HUSBANDS EDUCATE YOUR WIVES.....

On the wedding day, the bride's father officially hands over his daughter to you meaning "I have stopped all my training right here, now continue from where I stopped" most grooms get excited at the thought of the wedding night (which is good) but oblivious of the huge responsibility they are carrying home called "wife"!

A woman must be trained forever, if you don't, she will go hay wire! That is the truth!

Women are easily influenced, that is why social media has destroyed and is still destroying many homes beyond repair!

Some men think the best way to train their wives is to shout at her, beat her, disgrace her, deny her sex or do something crazier! 

What's the meaning of that nonsense? Is she an animal? Is she a kid? Is he an imbecile? Is she a fool? You don't train an intelligent, mature human being that way!

Educate your wife sir! That was Adam's number one problem. He refused to teach Eve properly about the consequence of eating the fruits or educate her about how to respond to opposition and she fell flat on her face!

1. EDUCATE YOUR WIFE ABOUT HER CHOICE OF CLOTHING:

 I get angry when I see married women with extremely skin tight clothes, miniskirts, seductive wears and I wander if they have a husband at home. A virtuous woman is properly dressed both at home and outside. If she dresses like a prostitute, and men are chasing her around, you are to blame! Your wife reflects your training! A wife properly taught and educated by husband should know what turns men on and should never wear them out of her apartment.

I used to wear mini skirts as a single lady and I saw no big deal about it. I used to walk very fast and it made my walk easier. Hubby preached consistently, helping me see how it affects men and never gave up till I dropped them. I do not wear mini skirts anymore.

Early in my marriage, I used to wear skin tight trousers. It made me feel smart and walk fast. Again, hubby sat me down and educated me till I dropped them. I don't wear tight trousers any more.

When married women wear certain clothes that are socially unacceptable, I used to ask myself : "are the husbands aware their wives stepped out of the house with this clothe on?" Same for women who go about the streets without wearing bra under their clothes. Some rush out of the house with transparent gowns to quickly buy something. Where are their husbands?

2. EDUCATE YOUR WIFE ABOUT HER CHOICE OF WORDS: 

May God help any man who listens attentively to an angry, abusive woman, be may drink sniper! A woman's mouth is sharper than a two edged words when angry! I used to be like that. They would flow like tap water and sting! With my husband's constant teaching, corrections and patience, my mouth got "born again". It wasn't easy though. But it is possible. Educate your wife sir.

3. EDUCATE HER TO MAXIMIZE HER POTENTIAL: 

My husband is the brain behind my online appearance. He encouraged me to launch out. He taught me blogging. He said their is gold in me and I should go for it. He is the brain behind USAC. He is the one behind the scene, encouraging, inspiring, motivating and never giving up. He is the brain behind my books. He encourages me to give my best, write with passion, focus in impacting lives. He does not accept mediocrity or shabbiness. He spurs me on to excellence daily. Without Adewunmi, there won't be me here at all. Great women with great marriages have testified to this as well: late Pastor Bimbo Odukoya, Pastor Funke Felix Adejumo, Nike Adeyemi and a host of others.

4. EDUCATE HER TO GROW SPIRITUALLY:

 There was a time in my marriage I couldn't pray anymore. It was a spiritual attack. My spiritual life blanked out completely. Hubby stood by me, encouraging me, preaching to me, educating me, never giving up and staying "on my neck" till I bounced back!

Behind every successful woman is a great man. No virtuous woman dropped from the sky!

Before you go comparing your wife with another man, compare yourself with her husband, are you doing what he did to have such a wife?

Some men complain their wives are very stubborn, they don't accept correction bla...bla...bla...there is no one who does not have elements of stubbornness in them including you.

Intelligent people don't just accept everything thrown in their face hook line and sinker, they need to weigh the pros and cons and see if their well established life style is worth dumping for the new one. You must patiently, consistently let them see the benefit of the new lifestyle you are introducing to them and never give up till they accept completely.

I didn't accept hubby's explanation initially! I thought he was a super religious insecure husband! I thought I was married and no man was looking at me.

I thought I was sexually disciplined and tolerate no nonsense from men so what I wore was no big deal! And yes, I was tough! Men knew that I had high standards and you dare not cross my boundary.

That not withstanding, a virtuous woman must look like a virtuous woman. I am the complete opposite of what I used to be.

Hubby constantly tells me I am a miracle! A walking miracle!

I have changed a lot.

His unconditional love, patience, prayers, correction, tough love and persistence made me a virtuous woman today.

God can use you to change your wife and influence her generation.

Thanks for reading!